Values & Priorities that are Rotting from the Inside Out

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» Smart, Focused, Pissed & Determined

Speaking of slaying them all .. check out Rachael Denhollander.

Rachael Dennhollander and Kyle Stephens on CBS this Morning Jan 25, 2018

Oh, she is a woman on a mission. She is going after them all. You do not want to be on her shit-list. You do not want to be in her crosshairs.

She is smart and she is focused and she is pissed .. and she is coming for them. It's only a matter of time now.

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I want to go over to that page where I write to Ben Sasse and I want to ask Ben what he thinks about these women here .. yet another example of how a young person succeeded despite decades of incompetence and irresponsibility on the part of adults in positions of authority.

I am starting to see a trend .. that I want to ask Ben about.

Rachael was the first one. She started it, and she aint going anywhere until she finishes what she started.

Uh, it says here (Jan 10, 2018) that Maggie Nichols was actually the first to report doctor Larry Nassar to USA Gymnastics for sexual abuse back in 2015. So I think that Rachael was the first to publicly accuse Nassar .. whereas Maggie was known as "Athlete A".

» Kyle on the Edge of a Couch

And at t=2:30 here (Feb 16, 2018) Kyle Stephens tells Larry Nassar himself "You were first arrested on my charges."

Kyle Stephens looking at a photo of her younger self

Right after she told him "I told counselors your name in hopes that they would report you. I have reported you to child protective services twice. I gave a testament to get your medical license revoked."

She says a number things that spoke to me. I dont want to get into these things right now .. because such a thing could go on for quite a ways.

As a writer, I need to steel myself for some things. I need to be ready.

» Contact with the Effects of this Thing from a Different Angle

In a way, I feel connected to these girls .. because of the Wow girl. I come at this thing from a different angle .. but it is part of the same thing.

In other words, I have had direct contact with the effects of this thing. I was not sure why she was so .. I am not really sure of the word to use here. But you could sense the residual effects of something traumatic in her. 

» She Sometimes Adopted a Defensive Posture

When we were making love, standard missionary style, she would sometimes put both of her hands against my torso, and she would absorb some of the force of my thrusts with her arms.

I never had another lover who did that. Ever.

Such a position is not about the mutual embracing of love-making. I could see what she was doing .. so I paused and took each one of her hands and placed them behind me, and I said, "Come on, Trace."

I didnt not come right out and say, "Don't do me like that." But this is what I meant.

» I Can Be That Person

I wasnt planning to get into it .. but, see, I can be the person who she needs me to be. I can be that person .. and only too easily.

I saw this thing where Trump is talking to Howard Stern about Lindsay Lohan.

Trump says that very troubled girls such as Lindsay Lohan are always the best in bed

He is saying that it is always the very troubled girls who are the best in bed.

I hate to admit it, but I would have to agree with him there. In my experience, this has indeed been the case.

And the thing is that they dont necessarily try to be so good in bed. Rather, there is just something about them. It comes very naturally to them.

I dont really know what it means .. except that this seems to reinforce my theory that .. it is a fine line between genius and insanity. And it is not always clear which side of the line you are standing on.

I probably shouldnt say any more along these lines. But now I can see how much I didnt know at the time.

And it is going to take more than just a repositioning of her hands to make real progress with this girl. Much more. I can see that now.

I can see that the more naturally you resonate with a person (of either sex), the more comfortable you feel with them. You feel like you can simply be yourself with this person .. and they will understand you.

» Super Bright-n-Sparkly to Very Dark Places

More than with any other girl .. life with the Wow girl went from super bright-n-sparkly to very dark places. And if you are familiar with this span, then you know that it is the distance of this span that really fucks you up.

Anyway .. I have been thinking about some of the things that Kyle Stephens said. They are fitting into the puzzle that I had with the Wow girl.

» Seems Very Together

But to my point .. doesnt Kyle seem like she has her shit together? I am talking external, surface presentation here. You know that she does. She seems very together.

She is articulating, with impressive poise, the nastiest shit. That's very difficult to do .. I dont care who you are.

» Her Parents Didnt Believe Her and Called Her a Liar

At t=3:30 she says that her dad committed suicide in 2016. Her parents didnt believe her when she told them. They called her a liar.

As a parent myself .. I am not really able to wrap my head around that .. how you wouldnt believe your own daughter. I am trying to get there .. but I can't do it.

I am so proud of these girls. Think of all the heartache and suffering and trauma and fucked-up lives they will save other little girls from.

Here she is again with a similar thing. It looks to be a different segment of the same interview .. where she is echoing a sentiment similar to what Mattie Larson expressed.

» When the Cavalry Never Comes and You're on Your Own

Speaking to the conscious imaginative act of visiting yourself as a young child .. when you are fully grown and strong and have plenty of life-experience under your belt .. so that you understand what is right and what is wrong ..

.. I could say a few things to this. But I should probably begin at the end and say that .. you eventually learn and discover that people who should be there for you .. who should have your back .. who should want nothing but good things for you .. and who you expect to protect you ..

.. these people so often let you down. And you eventually learn that you really only have yourself .. to take care of you .. at a primal level. These girls know exactly what I am saying here.

And if you happen to have a friend or two who really get you and who are really there for you .. in your darkest hours .. well, you are a rich man, my friend. Or a rich woman. Either way, you are rich.

» In a Toxic Place with Only a Difficult Way Out

But you are your own cavalry. If you dont deal with and process the exceedingly toxic effects of this abuse in your life .. then it won't be dealt with.

It will become a festering wound in your psyche that you will spend the rest of your life trying to camouflage and ignore while you continue to deny the existence of something that is obvious to everyone around you. Painfully obvious.

There are many more people who fit the latter category .. because the other way is so difficult. So very difficult.

And now that you are grown, and strong, and know how to kick much ass and get shit done .. at a certain level, you can bring a degree of healing to this thing .. by going back there and putting your arm around the shoulder of your younger self ..

.. and saying, "It's gonna be okay. I got ya. It's gonna suck, but I'll get you through this. Then we will have some real fun. We'll go to Disneyland .. the happiest place on earth. Fuck them. Fuck their values. Fuck their shitty values. And when you get older, we will tell our story. We will go into great detail. As honestly as possible. This will serve as both a testimony to those who come after us, and a warning those who might consider such abusive behavior."

Anyway, I like how the Post breaks up this interview into bite-sized segments (4 mins). You cannot handle very much of that in one sitting.

I dont even think that she is being interviewed. I think that she is simply holding forth .. in front of a camera .. and sharing her story, and her experiences.

» Incredible Courage on Display

Speaking of finding yourself in an unfortunate place with only a difficult way out .. I heard this outstanding characterization by Dan Wetzel of these women who testified.

The host asks Dan about his most visceral moment. To which he responds by saying (at t=4:40).

"The one that really stands out to me was the 15-year old girl the other day who got up to speak. And you think about a high school sophomore. Let's say she has to give a presentation to her history class. She's nervous that morning. She's practicing. It's nerve-wracking. She might not want to do it. This girl, and so many others, walked into a courtroom .. talked about the worst day of her life .. incredibly private information ..  sensitive information .. in front of the child molester, the judge, 150 people in the audience, and a whole bunch of TV cameras. And you watch 'em shake, hear the papers moving .. the tears, and you watch 'em power through this and do it. Incredible courage."

I have never heard it put better.

Even though you are seeing such incredible bravery on display right before your very eyes .. it's still hard to fathom how these women were able to summon such courage.

I am so proud of these women .. they give me hope for the future.

» If You Bring Enough Pressure to Bear, Something is Bound to Give

Anyway .. this is exactly what you need here » girls who are smart, focused and pissed. If you bring enough pressure to bear .. something's bound to give.

You just keep cranking it up .. little by little. They will eventually get the message.

They will think, "Oh, this thing is coming right for me .. I better get the fuck out of here."

Steve Bannon says that the time for women has finally come

And if they dont, then you do what Gretchen did .. you drive the stake right into their heart .. looking them dead in their eye when you do, and say, "I told you that I was coming for you .. didnt I? You can't say that I didnt try to warn your punk ass."

If we have to put up three billboards outside of each of these organizations .. then this is what we will do.

» Out with the Old, Failed Values .. in with the New & Improved Priorities

These organizations that she is talking about failed these girls on such a grand and vast scale that everyone with the slightest culpability needs to go.

I am referring to her dialogue that begins at t=3:20 .. see here:

"It was empowering, and it was beautiful to see so many women reclaiming their voice .. but it was also incredibly heartbreaking .. because the vast majority of us did not need to be there. Had those first reports to MSU head coach Kathie Klages in 1997 been taken seriously, the vast majority of victims would not have been in that courtroom."

» Values & Priorities that are Rotting from the Inside Out

This is so fucking infuriating .. on so many levels .. that it boggles the mind. You could see that Norah herself was fit to be tied.

Norah O'Donnell

She is livid. At t=4:00 Rachael says » "USA Gymnastics is really an organization that is rotting from the inside out."

If anybody would know...

Oh, I like this girl. She is fearless. She is coming for them.

It does not surprise me that she says USA Gymnastics is an organization that is » rotting from the inside out .. because the values that dominate their whole fucking generation are rotting.

» The System at USA Gymnastics is About the Medals, their own Reputation & Money

Aly says that the Gymnastics system in the United States is really about » the medals, their own reputation & money. (But not really about the girls themselves.) You reckon she might know?

Aly Raisman says that the US Olympics system betrayed the athletes

Nevertheless, Ben Sasse seems to be able to see only the shortcomings of the youth. (Go fuck yourself, Ben. And dont forget to take that hypocritical, piece-of-shit book with you.)

How can girls trust the management that failed them so spectacularly? (They can't.) These management people are fuck-ups .. by definition.

Lou Anna Simon | President Michigan State University accepts no responsibility for what happened under her leadership and supervision

These so-called management people are fuck-ups because they have allowed things under their care .. under their leadership and under their supervision ..

.. they have allowed things to deteriorate to such a state .. that it boggles comprehension.

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» Sheryl Sandberg Does Not Have What It Takes to Run Facebook

And speaking of management fuck-ups with obviously fucked up values .. let me be the first to say here that » Sheryl Sandberg is a fuck-up. She has demonstrated unreliability in her capacity as head of Facebook.

Sheryl Sandberg admits to problems with security at Facebook only after problems revealed

Perhaps she knows how to write a good book, but she does not have what it takes to run a company like Facebook. She need to go lean in somewhere else .. where the decisions that she faces are not so difficult for her to get right.

I know that this seems obvious now .. only too obvious. I bet that Stephanie would agree with me here.

If you are only going admit to problems after they have been revealed to the world .. then we can get a twelve-year-old to do that job, who will gladly work for much less.

I bet that Sandy Parakilas would agree with me here.

Sandy Parakilas warned Facebook about these problems back in 2012

You need to be an adult who inspires trust in your users. You need to be transparent about these things .. these important things. Things like democracy.

I have never opened a Facebook account. I might be the only one. Now I am glad that I didnt. Does not her responses make it clear that Facebook cares only about the money?

The values that are expressed by her actions are part of what is wrong with America today. They are so quick to sell their soul. And so eager to sell out those who they value much less than they should.

I wonder what Yuri thinks of that.

Mark Zuckerberg with Yuri Milner with ties to Kremlin money

He probably thinks that young Zuckerberg was played for a sap. Easily played.

I wonder what Aleksandr Kogan thinks of that.

Dr. Aleksandr Kogan responds to Mark Zuckerberg's accusations by saying that Facebook has clearly never cared about the privacy of its user's data (23 April 2018)

At t=8:20 he says,

"There is now a big responsibility for tech companies to turn around and do something about it [ the privacy of their user's data ]. But it's difficult when you've built your (entire) business model, fundamentally, on the idea that we're going to grab as much (user) data as we can and use it for whatever purpose we want because THAT'S THE WAY WE $ELL AD$. So I think that they (Facebook) have a really big challenge ahead of themselves."

I see no social ethics at work here .. at this social networking company. Do you?

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» It Would be Difficult to Fuck Things Up this Badly If You Tried to

Even if you tried to fuck things up this badly as the people at USA Gymnastics have .. I dont think you could do it.

If some slimy person came to me and said, "We will pay you handsome sums of money .. if you will create a system that sexually abuses 250 of the nation's most talented and dedicated young girls." ..

I would have to say, "This is not humanly possible .. no matter how much money you're willing to pay."

I happen to know a little about management.

This is why, from an intuitive perspective, the viewer feels certain that criminality must be surrounding this thing from multiple angles.

These national organizations therefore need to bring in new blood .. with people that understand the importance of values and where the real priorities lie.

And they need to rebuild these organizations from scratch, from the ground up, on the right values and priorities.

The lengthy article on this ESPN page here (dated Jan 16, 2018) is titled » Nassar surrounded by adults who enabled his predatory behavior.

Out with the old .. in with the new.

» Members of Congress Who Appear to Value NRA Money More than the Lives of Our Children

Speaking of values and priorities that are rotting from the inside out, and organizations that appear to value money more than children .. Stephanie has something of a » public service announcement for you.

Stephanie Ruhle details amounts of contributions from the NRA to members of congress

Since everybody knows that actions speak louder than words (or "thoughts and prayers") .. do not the actions of congress seem to declare that they value money from the NRA over the safety and lives of our children?

Their "thoughts and prayers" cost them nothing.

Go fuck yourself, Marco.

You are just another spineless politician like Rick Perry and David Perdue who refuses to do the right thing by America and by our children because it would offend the wealthy donors who give you millions of dollars.

The kids are calling bullshit on your slimy ass.They saying that your ass has been weighed in the balance and found wanting.

Choosing money over the lives and safety of children .. your values suck.

You have shitty values, Marco. I bet that Sarah will back me up here.

Sarah wants more than just 'thoughts and prayers' from the members of our government

Senator Kirsten Gillibrand says that the NRA has a "chokehold on members of congress."

» Return the Blood Money to the NRA

Well, if NRA does indeed have a "chokehold" on our members of congress .. they can very easily extricate themselves from this predicament. All they need do is give the NRA their money back ..

.. just like Hillary gave Goldman Sachs its money back. Oh, wait .. you mean that she didnt return the money?

But our members of congress can still do better than Clueless Hillary. Simply return to the NRA the contributions that they received.

I mean, how hard can it be for our elected leaders to do the right thing for our children? Surely children are at the top, or near the top, of their list of priorities.

» Doesnt Sound Like an Unreasonable Request .. Compared to Other Nations

It is not like these kids are asking for very much. They simply want to be able to go to school and not have to worry about being shot in the face with a military-grade weapon that was legally purchased by a psycho teenager who countless people reported to the authorities because he said repeatedly that his life's great ambition was to shoot-up a school someday.

That doesnt seem like an unrealistic aspiration to me. I bet that John Oliver would agree. And Chris Murphy.

» Their Actions Speak to Where their True Priorities and Values Lie

Do the profits of gun manufacturers really mean more to our elected leaders than the lives of our children? It certainly seems that way.

I bet that Emma Gonzalez knows exactly what I am talking about here.

Emma Gonzalez, a student at Marjory Stoneman Douglas high school, gives a speech at a rally at the Broward County Federal Courthouse in Fort Lauderdale 17 Feb 2018

The youth of today gives me hope .. for the future. I might have to give her my speech.

This is why I say that the place where wealthy people put money into the hands of our elected leaders .. this is the exact point of corruption in our society today.

It is the signature defect in our society today, and the root cause of why our country is so fucked up, and why America only works for a small fraction of its citizens.

This is exactly why our elected members of congress fail to take action on things that 95% of the American people agree action is needed and where the vast majority of Americans say that they want action taken.

This is exactly why our elected leaders ignore the wishes and desires of a nearly unanimous majority of American people, and instead cater fawningly to every whim of the wealthy.

Our elected leaders claim that this money doesnt affect their decisions .. yet they refuse to return the money.

I challenge our members of congress to return the NRA's blood money .. just like I challenged Hillary to return Wall Street's money to them. I challenge our members of congress to embrace the values and the priorities of the American people.

» What Better Time to Clean House and Reject Dysfunctional Values?

And, really .. what better time to do this thing .. than the beginning of a New Millennium?

What better time to reject the clearly dysfunctional values of the currently governing generation?

Results of 2016 Democratic primaries and caucuses among voters under 30 (at t=4:30)

What better time to usher in the New Age .. with some values that are actually worth a fuck?

What better time to fashion a culture that understands the importance of protecting the weak and the poor and the helpless?

Instead of taking advantage of them and fucking them over for decades and decades? I think that they have had enough time to fix the problem. Don't you?

I want future generations to look back and say, "Thank God for this generation." And not, "What a bunch of fuck-ups. What a bunch of money-worshipping fuck-ups."

Results of a Quinnipiac poll of 18-34-year olds taken January 2018

Out with the old values .. which failed these girls so spectacularly for so long. In with the new values .. which Rachael will be more than happy to detail for you.

If you happen to see her, tell her that I said, "Hey." (She knows what that means.)

Oh look .. she has her own piece in the Times. I told you that she was coming for them. She's just getting warmed up. Wait until she takes off her jacket.

» People Can Mislead with Their Mouths but Actions Reveal True Values

On the subject of values that are rotting from the inside out and women being abused by men .. at t=14:20 in this video, Princeton professor Eddie Glaude says:

"We have to look at this moment as an indication of what they VALUE. What's valued, or who is valued. So in the Lindy West piece in the NY Times, there's this moment where [John] Kelly wants to say that [Rob] Porter is perhaps the most competent staff member he has .. that he wants to keep him. And there's this talk about how excellent he is. And in fact he's excellent in relation to what? And to whom? And so the value is, we're going to take competence, baseline competence, over the fact that the guy beats women, or is accused of beating women. And so what we're going to see is that there's a consistent strand .. a continuity between what we see in their actions and how it reflects what they actually value, and how it is related to their character."

The actions of those involved in this scandal state that they didnt care that Rob Porter punched his wife in the face .. as long as nobody finds out about it.

Rob Porter punched his wife in the face

Moreover, the fact that they thought nobody would find out about his spousal abuse is an obvious strategic miscalculation that demonstrates how the White House is making bad decisions that is creating their own chaos.

Such a decision - to dismiss a man who punches women in the face - should be a no-brainer. No?

I bet that Jenny agrees with me here.

» Three Years Out

Speaking of values and the things that we value .. I am 3 years out today. I feel grateful to be alive .. no-shit grateful. I never felt like this before cancer.

I took the passage of seasons, and of the years, for granted. The seasons and the years seem to mean more to me now.

I bet that Selena knows exactly what I am talking about here.

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