Flirting with Danger - Page One

Rad note » this entry originated from another page. It was moved here because the subject drifted far enough to warrant its own, separate entry (.. which has grown to fill 10 pages).

» Dangerous and Provocative is Good

At the risk of getting carried away with the subject, let me mention, ever so briefly .. that the very next paragraph, which comes right after the one that contains the passage about "long existentialist hair" ..

.. where the author describes the scene in these subterranean Parisian jazz cafes following the war .. the very next paragraph begins like so »

"In this rebellious world, just as with the Parisian bohemians and Dadaists in earlier generations, everything that was dangerous and provocative was good, and everything that was nice or bourgeois was bad."

The sentence jumped out at me and demanded closer examination. Vetting. I mean, these are my people saying these things .. so it feels more personal than it would be coming from an annoying schmuck.

The author goes on to share examples of what she means by this.

Later this same evening, I was thinking about this, about how dangerous and provocative things seemed good to the existentialist (and others who might be artistically inclined) .. very much minding my own business ..

Ariana performs Dangerous Woman live on SNL March 12, 2016.. when I saw the video on YouTube,

where Ariana sang a song (live) on SNL

that is titled » Dangerous Woman,

where she is telling me how I make her feel like doing naughty things.

(Can you blame her?)

» A Cappella is for Lovers

Have you seen the a cappella version?

It totally reminded me of the singer-girl, singing to me ..

.. as we walked down the super-wide sidewalks of New Haven on a Saturday night,

looking for a place to go dancing.

Room to dance before the dance floor fills up with sweaty bodiesWe liked to go early.

Before the dance floors filled up.

To do some real dancing.

After they fill up with sweaty bodies, you can hardly move.

So we would go someplace else.

Or grab a bite to eat somewhere.

She sang to me all the time .. at her place, in the car ..

.. but it was on those sidewalks, where she was dressed up all pretty, and looking so sexy ..

.. that it really hit me. "Why arent my feet touching the ground?"

She was very comfortable in her sexuality. And of course, everybody sitting at the restaurant tables outside there on the sidewalk is watching and listening. "Come back!" they call, waiving their arms.

Groups of people pass going the other way .. but she pays them no mind. Their looks say, "Dude, this is some very cool shit." I give them a return look that says, "I know."

There is nothing like a singer singing to you as you walk leisurely down super-wide sidewalks .. as the sun sets on a steamy Saturday eve. I dont think my feet ever touched the ground.

It was one of the coolest experiences of my life. I mean, she was diggin' me and you could tell. And she knew how to show it. She is obviously feeling good.

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Ariana can really sing. She's not just another pretty face. You can hear better if a girl can really sing or not when she sings a cappella.

Ariana sings Dangerous Woman a cappellaI am sucker for a cappella.

It sounds so .. naked, so intimate.

So vulnerable.

So brave.

All musical accompaniment is stripped away.

Only the voice remains.

No audible distractions. And I doubt I am alone in my feelings here.

I wonder if it requires courage .. to sing a cappella.

How often do you hear it sung? (Not very often.)

» What Makes a Woman Dangerous?

A dangerous woman .. now there's a subject that I can hold forth on. What makes a woman dangerous?

I probably dont have to tell you .. but it's when something about them does it for you. It may not make sense to you. You may even wish they didnt do it for you .. but they clearly do.

And this is what causes you to lose control, so to speak, of your rational, logical faculties. You can feel yourself getting carried away with them .. and there doesnt seem to be much that you can do about it, either.

It's like you lose your mind. They kinda make you crazy. It's definitely an exhilarating thing .. that feeling of being out of control.

Jenni Fagan waiting around the cornerAnd dangerous women always seem to climb inside your head .. do they not?

They are there, waiting for you, around every new corner.

"How did they get there?" you wonder.

Like they anticipate your very thoughts.

Describe Phenomena » As Presented to Your Experience

After I saw the a cappella video .. the voices in my head started talking. They were certainly very excited .. let me tell you.

The cross-chatter was downright ferocious, at times. Many interesting things were said.

This is a tangent from which we might never return. So let us not go there.

But let me simply mention that, regarding these existentialists, who I have been referring to today .. is that, one of the big-big things of this philosophy is » "What are things saying to my experience? After stripping away everything else."

If I were to display some academic finesse here, I might mention that this big-big thing of which I speak .. actually comes from the phenomenologist, who are precursors to the existentialists.

On page 40, the author boils down Phenomenology into its essence by saying that it is » "a method, rather than a set of ideas." And that method is to » DESCRIBE PHENOMENA .. about which she goes into considerable detail.

But my point here is that, this particular way of thinking (yes, there are others) .. this particular ability to listen in a certain way .. this has been with me for a long time.

And after I heard Ariana's a cappella version .. I caught my existentialist sensors listening .. and the message that came thru was » "I can play fifty shades with you, daddy. I'm not scared."

Ariana shows you her pretty hair while she stares you down» Payback Time

Oh look .. she just dropped the video.

Wow.

She is obviously paying me back.

For putting her on my hottie page.

I should've known .. it would have this effect.

I can actually feel her .. paying me back.

But, is this not exactly what I was talking about with these girls?

They are dangerous. And they know they are.

Does Ariana not look very comfortable in the role of a dangerous woman? She does not look like she is having to stretch very far, to me.

This is a very intimate video .. those close-ups .. I remember the film school girl telling me the name of these particular shots .. the one from eyebrows to lips. That is the closest shot. You can actually see individual strands of hair. She is putting you very close.

I normally stream my YouTube videos at 480, but for this one, I cranked it up to 720 HD .. even if it meant waiting for the bigger download.

Ariana | Dangerous WomanAnd Ariana is making eye contact. Intimate eye contact.

Bold, long, lingering. Confident.

That is very sexy shit. With those amazing night-time color palettes.

It is so easy to put yourself there. You kinda can't stop it. Your imagination runs with it.

I can hear her saying, "Do I look scared, daddy? I dont think so."

I am actually a little disoriented. She musta got to me. I can feel my existential world rocked. I was not at all expecting that. You might have to give me a moment to recover. I am thinking of a million things right now.

I will tell you, my friend .. those visuals around t=0:45 .. that definitely surprised me. I dare not go there .. and describe what I saw and felt in this place. But I could definitely feel it.

She brings it right to your doorstep. I dont think I ever recovered from that. Like it somehow fucked me up. She does not even blink. Wow. (I can feel myself trying to figure out how you did this to me.)

» Sexually Aggressive and Provocatively Confrontational (Not Easily Dismissed)

Ariana shows you her pretty hair while thinking, 'Come light me up, daddy'Is this not exactly what I was trying to tell you about these girls?

They are very confrontational. Sexually and suggestively confrontational.

They have no problem rattling your cage .. when they feel like it.

They know they have the goods. (And they know that you want them.)

Is this video not sexually confrontational? She is bringing it straight to your doorstep and you will have to deal with it, my friend.

I dont want to say that "I told you" .. but I told you.

I think my subtext in that entry was that girls can sometimes make you offers and requests that can be more difficult to dismiss than you might otherwise imagine. Much more.

» They Are Young and They Know How to Get Your Attention

Wasnt this exactly what I was saying? » they are young and they know how to get your attention (.. and leave you twitching and breathless and disoriented after they rub their sweaty bodies up against you).

She obviously wants me to write about her. (That's what they all want.) I can feel her provoking me. Taunting me. Daring me. Enticing me.

Writing about a thing often helps me to understand it better. And few subjects perplex males more than women. I might have to start up the reactor for her. The writing reactor. (I wonder if she could handle it.)

The Writing Locomotive » Destination Unknown

Sometimes, as a writer, you feel the writing locomotive pull up. (There are several versions. Several different models.) And it is so strong, that, even if you dont want to, you still must go for a ride.

Steam locomotive from Cloud AtlasAnd the thing that makes you not want to go for a ride .. is that you dont know where this train is going.

And you look behind the locomotive and there are three carloads full of coal. Filled to overflowing. Inspired coal. Enough inspired coal to take you a looong way. And miles to go before I sleep.

There is no telling where the writing locomotive will take you. And this one in particular. You can feel the specialness about this one.

And there is a part of you that is certain your cojones are not nearly grande enough .. for such a grand, shiny locomotive. And you think, "Wow .. that thing is certainly very sparkly."

And you turn to the engineer and say, "That's a lot of coal, no?"

And the engineer says, "There's a lot more where that came from."

And the voice in my head says, "Dude, why do ask these stupid questions? .. just climb aboard and do your thing. You'll know when we arrive .. trust me."

And I say, "Because I'm a cancer survivor and I should probably be resting and watching Netflix, while sipping herb tea .. instead of driving this monster to God knows where."

And he says, "What's that got to do with anything?"

» Let's Do This Thing

The whistle blows loudly. I dont how how I know, but I know that if I am to do this thing, then I must go now.

If I dont go now, because I am too big of a pussy, or because my ass is dragging, or because of any one of a million other excuses that I could come up with very easiy .. then, this thing is forever lost. I can see this.

And I turn to the engineer and say, "Fuck it, let's do this thing .. this dangerous thing."

"Brave man you are," he says, as I step up. "I wouldnt have been able to resist, either. Are you going to give her the whole three carloads' worth?"

» Dangerous Women Learn Your Weaknesses and Exploit Them

But this is one of the things that makes certain women dangerous .. they learn your weaknesses .. and then they use them against you.

And Ariana knows that I have this thing for singers. This 'thing' is a weakness for. And she is definitely using it against me.

But the way that they released this song .. beginning with a double-duty gig on SNL .. then the fifty shades a cappella .. and then the official video.

It is not just a single boom .. but rather a sustained, multi-faceted thing. Which is often how we experience real life .. start with this and finish with that.

And these three things coming all together, with only a week between one another .. forces you to reevaluate her. No?

Does that not seem like a muscular thing? My whole idea of her has changed. Dramatically. It's like she opens up your head and rearranges the furniture. So fast.

She starts you easy on SNL and then brings out the big guns. (She softens you up, first.)

» Hypnotically Pounding Sexuality

It is impossible to miss the hard, driving sexually in the repeated "something 'bout, something 'bout." She is obviously not shy or coy about expressing her sexuality. You can feel it. It comes thru loud-n-clear.

And while it is clearly driving thru the middle .. it ends with a beat that is downright pounding. (A mattress-destroying beat.) And the voice in my head said, "Dude, this girl is totally feeling you. She knows where you live."

(Tho, I find it curious that this actually sounded more like the voice-of-reason .. than the voice-of-ego.)

Many studies have shown repression "playing a major role in many mental illnesses." Do you see any signs of repression in her video? She looks and sounds pretty healthy to me. Very healthy, indeed.

I once had a guy tell me "Dude, these girls who you date .. they are all pretty to look at, sure. But, if the wind blows very hard, they will all blow away. These girls are not going to be able to give you many children. You need a hearty, substantial woman for that. Someone with some meat on her bones."

I came away from this discussion with the impression that he saw women in terms of cattle.

I cant help but wonder if she felt repressed in her earlier roles .. and if so, then how much.

I'm so glad that I was able to have such a liberating effect on her. She appears to be expressing her appreciation quite freely.

» Something 'Bout that Beat

My ego wants me to tell little Miss Ari .. how my dad once said to my younger brother and myself (on a Friday) » "Just once, it would be nice if I could spend a weekend without having to fix stuff that you kids break."

You know how boys play rough, sometimes. Before this, we had broken the glass door to the stall shower while wrestling in the bathroom. "You did it!" .. "No, you pushed me into it." Dad was exaggerating, but we did kinda break a lot of shit. Normal teenage wear-n-tear, if you ask me.

He said this to us right after we the broke the bed. Bro would jump up and down on the bed .. and I would swing a pillow and try to knock his legs out from under him.

It is really a lot of fun and we played for hours on end. (I even played it with my son, too. He never wanted to stop.)

But, one time, with bro, the frame of the bed broke at one of the corners .. and the whole bed was pitched forward, at a horrible downward slant. It looked like Shrek had been jumping on it.

Anyway .. my point here is to tell you that [ male ego talking, in response to feeling the hypnotically pounding beat in your repeated "something 'bout, something 'bout" ] » "I have been destroying beds pretty much my whole life."

(I crack myself up, sometimes.)

My real point is that .. there is much about this video that I can't even write about here. (And there isnt much I wont write about.)

» The Birds and the Bees and the Dangerous Women

My hormones, biologically speaking, I have noticed over the years, just naturally tend to get cranked up in the spring. And I doubt that I am much different from any other red-blooded American male. And hormones are very powerful things. You know.

The Bug was born in January. Nine months from January is April. April is spring .. early spring. I was born in January myself. So there appears to be some ancestral legacy to it.

And your genes during this time, whether you even realize or not, they are looking to transcend the limitations associated with mortality. That is their job, my friend.

That is part of their coding, part of their ancient algorithm .. and to send themselves off into the future .. the bright, shiny future .. where they can have even more fun and keep the party going. They do this whether or not you even want them to.

And they are looking for the best 'vehicle' to carry them forward .. into the future. In a sense, you (via your genes) are craving something like immortality .. with this other person.

I heard of a book once, I forget the title .. but it was written long ago in either Japan or China (I think) .. and the gist of this book, which is written from the perspective of an old man who had lived a hard life.

And the takeaway is that .. no matter how old or how dire straights a man might be in .. his heart still skips a beat when a pretty young thing walks by.

It makes him feel young again .. and he is certain that he could throw her down and she would thank him for it. I'm exaggerating a little .. but that's not far from the truth.

When I first heard of this book .. this premise sounded outlandish. Now, it sounds like the voice of a genius. It's all in your perspective.

I dont want to get all birds-n-bees on you, but basically, you are looking for a fit vehicle .. one which seems intelligent and able to adapt to any environment. And one which can create their own environment. One which has the best chance for survival in the future.

» Timing is Everything

And it is during this season of genetic searching that Ariana releases this song. They say that timing is everything.

A part of me thinks that she is thinking, "Rihanna's got her own page, so I should have my own page, too." (Tho, she kinda already does.)

Another voice said, "Dude, this girl has skills. Real skills. And she is obviously not afraid to use them."

(I have some skills of my own. And I invent new ones all the time.)

The beginning of the video says 'Visual 1' .. as if to suggest a Visual 2. I dont think I could handle another Dangerous Woman video.

End of page 1. You should probably not continue on to the next page, because both the danger and the flirting really take off there. But, if you simply cant help yourself .. page 2 is here » Flirting with Danger - Page Two.

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